What does personal freedom have to do with career decisions and work satisfaction?
Personal freedom is connected with the human spirit. We can blame everyone and everything for imposing on our personal freedom, but the truth is that we often stop ourselves from being free.
Thousands of years ago, the Toltecs were a people known in Mexico as “women and men of knowledge”. They were masters and students. Toltec knowledge was not a religion but rather, a way of life, and its wisdom can provide valuable insights into modern day job search or career transition.
Several years ago I read a book entitled The Four Agreements http://tinyurl.com/6kx5f9 by Don Miguel Ruiz. I picked it up again recently.
The Four Agreements are very basic yet powerful. See if you might gain some value from thinking about them in relationship to your career journey.
The First Agreement: Be Impeccable With Your Word
Your reputation is everything. Whether you are just beginning to build your career, are a seasoned leader in your prime, or an individual ready to transition out of one career into another, you must speak with integrity. Say only what you mean.
Building trust and developing a reputation of integrity will carry you through difficult times and also be a legacy for those who rise behind you.
If you are in a career transition or job search, your word and how trustworthy and real you are will precede you when you are networking and will follow you into your next endeavor.
Yes – polish your approach and refine your words, but be honest and true. You won’t go wrong.
The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally
This is the toughest agreement for me to abide by. I used to take everything personally. I am finally at a point where I can let things go much of the time, but I still catch myself taking things personally.
The point of this agreement is that nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.
If someone gives you an opinion that is negative, i.e. ‘You can’t do this job’ – don’t take it personally. Taking things personally sets you up to suffer.
Be gracious and positive, and know that you are a person of quality and integrity, and move on.
To me, this is one of the most difficult of the agreements, yet I think it is vitally important. Think about how confident and centered you would come across to others if you didn’t take things personally and react defensively.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions
We tend to make assumptions about everything, and worse yet, we believe that our assumptions are true. Very dangerous.
Assumptions happen quickly. Our minds trick us.
Say you went on an interview with the CEO of a new start-up and you had a great conversation, had a lot in common and she talked like you already had the job. You left the meeting on a high; you went home and you assumed this deal was moving forward – “This is it,” you say to yourself. “I’m their new Marketing Director”.
Three weeks go by and you don’t hear a word. Now you make a different assumption all of a sudden. You assume the CEO is not considering you and she was just ‘acting’ as if she liked you. Is this true? We don’t know.
Perhaps the CEO is traveling. Perhaps the company is on the brink of a big meeting with a venture capitalist for a huge infusion of money. You don’t know.
Making assumptions is a habit. Just like any other habit, we need to take a different action over and over again to change it. Practice.
One way to avoid making assumptions is to ask questions for clarity.
The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best
This agreement allows the first three to become ingrained.
“Always do your best”- We have heard this before. Simple, right? Well – not always.
How often do you feel guilty because you “should have researched that company more before meeting that networking contact” or you “could have closed that deal if you had remembered the details about that product”…
One thing to keep in mind is that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to another.
Everything in life is constantly changing, so your best will also change over time. Just do your best in any circumstance and don’t judge yourself (that’s the hard part).
The more you practice these agreements, the more centered and clear your life will become. People will be drawn to you and think highly of you.
And I suspect you will be more likely to attract the type of work situations that are a good match for you.
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